Holidays can be challenging. Don’t let a loved one’s struggles with addiction take away from your joy.
If someone in your family has issues with alcohol, planning for the holidays might feel daunting. However, it can also be an opportunity to embrace positive change and support.
A recent study revealed that over 113 million Americans have been negatively affected by someone’s drinking. This could be a family member, friend, coworker, or neighbor. You’re not alone in this experience, and recognizing this can provide some comfort.
So, what steps can you take?
1. Host an Alcohol-Free Holiday Gathering
This idea might sound unusual, but it’s more practical than you think. While you can’t control others’ choices, you can set the tone for your event.
If you’re hosting, let your guests know the gathering will be alcohol-free.
Instead of focusing solely on traditional dishes, you can encourage guests to bring creative non-alcoholic drinks or mocktail recipes. This approach makes everyone feel included and adds a fun twist to the celebration.
2. Have an Honest Conversation with the Loved One Struggling with Alcohol
Think about your goal for the holiday. If it’s to enjoy a peaceful and loving celebration, a simple request to abstain from alcohol for one day is reasonable.
While this might seem like a challenging request, remind your loved one that it’s just for this occasion. Explain how this small step could contribute to a more enjoyable day for everyone.
You might even lighten the conversation by suggesting alternatives like indulging in holiday treats instead of alcohol.
Importantly, acknowledge that this request could be a stepping stone for them. Express gratitude if they agree, and use the opportunity to let them know how much their sober presence means to you.
Dr. Petros Levounis, a psychiatry expert at Rutgers Addiction Research Center, highlights the importance of showing support for the person while not endorsing their addiction.
Empathy goes a long way no one chooses to struggle with addiction. A supportive message can be a meaningful holiday gift.
3. Explore the Growing Trend of Sober Celebrations
If you like the idea of hosting alcohol-free events, take it a step further.
Consider joining larger movements like "Dry January," which encourages people to abstain from alcohol for the first month of the year. In fact, over one-third of Americans participated last January.
There are other sobriety-focused celebrations, too, such as "Sober St. Patrick’s Day" in March or "Sober October."
Beyond holidays, you can extend this practice to:
- School events
- Religious celebrations
- Birthdays
It’s not about opposing alcohol; it’s about proving that fun and meaningful connections don’t depend on it. This can help loved ones struggling with addiction while setting a positive example for younger generations.
4. Introduce the Idea of Being "Sober Curious"
Talking to a loved one about abstaining from alcohol during an event can be an opportunity to introduce the concept of being "sober curious."
This growing trend invites individuals to explore the benefits of a sober lifestyle without committing to complete abstinence. Your encouragement might inspire them to reflect on their drinking habits and consider healthier alternatives.
By framing it as a broader lifestyle trend, you may reduce the pressure they feel and open the door for meaningful conversations.
5. Take Care of Yourself
Supporting someone with a drinking problem can be emotionally draining. Prioritizing your well-being is essential.
Consider joining a support group like Al-Anon, a global network of in-person and virtual meetings for people affected by someone else’s drinking.
These groups provide a safe space where you can connect with others who share similar experiences. Members often discover a sense of community, reduce feelings of shame, and find ways to thrive despite their challenges.
The best part? It’s free and offers a positive way to start the new year on a healthier note.
Holidays are about connection and joy. With a bit of planning, honest communication, and self-care, you can navigate these moments, even when addiction is part of the equation.