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Have you ever wondered what's holding you back? Many of us struggle with accepting ourselves, whether we fear negative judgment from others or focus on our own mistakes and shortcomings. For some, being hard on themselves is seen as the right motivation for improvement. These and other myths keep us constantly at a disadvantage, always trying to catch up to an ideal.
You can strive to be better, but right now, you can only be who you are. Choosing to accept and love yourself sets the foundation for personal change.
Every journey, whether it's a physical one like climbing a mountain or a personal one like self-improvement, starts with understanding where you are now an honest assessment.
It's like using a map to find your starting point before planning your journey. This initial acceptance is crucial because it sets the stage for progress. Accepting where you are is like planting your feet firmly on the ground, ready to push off and move forward. Recognizing your current position is the first step in building a strong and stable foundation.
Measuring Your Progress
Beyond acceptance, knowing where you stand makes it possible to see and appreciate your growth and improvement. This awareness builds self-trust and confidence. It’s like marking milestones on a path each step forward feels like an achievement, which motivates you to keep going.
But when you are overly critical, expecting yourself to be further along in life, it's hard to appreciate the progress you've made. Steps forward seem less significant when you feel you should be further along.
When I talk about self-acceptance, I mean being comfortable with who you are, flaws and all. It doesn't mean overlooking your flaws or acting like everything is perfect. Instead, it means acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses without the negative judgments that can undermine your efforts. It's like looking in the mirror and saying, "I'm not perfect, but I'm trying my best, and that's good enough."
Consider the alternative: being upset with where you are or your lack of progress. Being angry with yourself only makes things worse. You're not any further along, but now you're also angry with yourself. This negativity undermines your confidence, creating more fear the next time you try.
Self-Compassion
I once heard Ram Dass talk about how he dealt with being frustrated with someone who wasn’t receptive to what he was saying. He shifted to compassion, saying, "I feel sorry for this person. They are so closed-minded that their life is being hindered. For this, I can feel compassion."
When you feel like you’re not good enough or aren’t achieving the results you want, try having compassion for yourself. If you feel like where you are is blocking your success, have empathy for your struggles.
Self-Acceptance Leads to a Positive Mindset
Practicing self-acceptance helps you develop a positive mindset. Instead of dwelling on your shortcomings, you focus on your strengths or how to develop greater strengths.
Focusing on your flaws doesn’t make them disappear or become less of an issue. Quite the opposite it creates an additional and unnecessary barrier to growth and progress.
Think of it this way. Focusing on a flaw is like putting yourself in a hole. You first need to dig yourself out of this hole before you can get back on your journey. If you come from a place of acceptance, you are already on the path and it’s easier to make and see progress.
You gain greater confidence in yourself and your skills. This translates into believing in yourself. And when you believe in yourself, you’re more likely to accept challenges and try new things, thus breaking out of old limiting boundaries. This leads to even more growth and success.
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Transforming a Positive Mindset into a Growth Mindset
To make self-acceptance work, it must be combined with a growth mindset. If you look at yourself honestly and see your strengths as well as your weaknesses, this can undermine your self-confidence. "How can I be confident," you might wonder, "if I have this weakness?" But with a growth mindset, any deficiency or perceived weakness can be a call to action to address your weakness and improve those skills.
If you have been feeling stuck or struggling to get to the next level, acceptance along with a growth mindset will make the difference. As you progress, remember to be kind to yourself. Celebrate your small wins and learn from your mistakes without getting stuck on them. By practicing self-acceptance and self-compassion, you’re paving the way for a brighter and more fulfilling future.