Signs You Might Be Dating A Malignant Narcissist

The malignant narcissist differs from the narcissist in that he or she has no conscience and will stop at nothing to achieve their goals. They are often charming, social, and charismatic on the outside, but on the inside they have no feelings or conscience. Because of this, malignant narcissists have even less hesitation about abusing others than other types of narcissists do. Here are 10 signs that you might be dating a malignant narcissist, as well as some suggestions to get out safely if you suspect you might be in this situation.

Selfishness

Malignant narcissists will do anything they can to make themselves feel better, even if that means making you feel bad. They will always put themselves first and their needs before yours. They are incapable of empathy and guilt, which makes it hard to have a healthy relationship with them. This person will never be satisfied with anything you give them; they are simply not capable of it.

Manipulation

Sometimes we don't realize that we are being manipulated until it is too late. Manipulation can take many forms: gaslighting, making you feel guilty, making promises they have no intention of keeping, playing the victim to get sympathy and so on. Once you realize that you are being manipulated, it's important to cut contact with the manipulator as soon as possible before they can do any further damage.

Lack of Empathy

Narcissists lack empathy because they are only concerned with themselves. They will use people for their own needs and discard them when they no longer serve a purpose. If you feel like your partner is taking advantage of you or not fully present, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship.

Pathological Lying

A malignant narcissist will tell you anything you want to hear in order to get what they want. They can be charming, but their true colors will show later on. One of the most telling signs is pathological lying - they'll often contradict themselves and blame others for mistakes. They might also lie about things that don't matter just to impress people or cover up a bad move.

Cold and Calculating

The malignant narcissist will lie, cheat, and manipulate to get what they want. They have a lack of empathy or self-awareness and will exploit people for their own selfish needs. The malignant narcissist is not looking for a long-term relationship or partner; they are looking for someone who will give them what they want when they want it with no questions asked. They often move from one person to the next in order to keep this cycle going.

Demands Attention

·       They can't stop talking about themselves. They want to know everything about you, but they won't reciprocate. They might be well-versed on your past and family history, but when it comes time for you to ask them something, they don't have time to chat. Anytime you try to get the focus off of them, they'll make sure to steer it right back on themselves.
·       Their needs always come first.
·       They expect you to follow their orders.
·       They will humiliate or embarrass you in public if you say or do anything that doesn't meet their approval. And it's not just limited to strangers - these people are masters at humiliating anyone who crosses their path.
·       They love a good argument, especially if they're winning.
·       They're quick to anger and slow to calm down - even with people who are normally patient and kind. 7. No matter what happens, it's always someone else's fault; they never take responsibility for their actions
·       Your every move is micromanaged. If you need to run an errand, they need to know where you are going and why, who will be there with you, what time you'll return home, etc.
·       You may find yourself walking on eggshells all the time because no one person is more important than any other
·       What feels like paranoia is actually a pretty accurate read of people's motives

Grandiosity Section: Need for Admiration

Grandiosity is one of the most common traits in malignant narcissists. They have an unhealthy need for admiration and are never satisfied with what they already have. People who exhibit this trait will often be boastful, narcissistic, entitled, pompous, haughty, and demanding.

They have a strong sense of entitlement to special privileges as well as superior treatment from others. These individuals demand attention from others at all times and don’t know how to take no for an answer when someone says no to them or refuses them something that they want.

Constant Envy/Jealousy

The most obvious sign that you're dealing with a malignant narcissist is their constant envy. It's not normal to be constantly envious of others. They have a need to have everything that everyone else has and will do anything in order to get it, even if that means taking it from the person they envied. They may also be jealous of other people's success or good fortune. There are many things that can make people feel jealous, but a malignant narcissist seems to feel this way about everything. For them, life is a zero sum game; for someone to win, someone must lose. Their constant envy may come out as passive-aggressive behavior such as sulking or making snide comments.

Extreme Lack of Remorse

The first sign is extreme lack of remorse. If you are in a relationship with a malignant narcissist, they may not feel bad about hurting you. They may even take pleasure in it. There's no way to know for sure without asking them, but if your partner is happy about hurting you, that is a huge red flag. People who love and care about their partners do not wish harm upon them. It also shows that they don't care what you think or how you feel.